5 Techniques to Save a Relationship
The small issues have spiraled into a big dilemma. The long, drawn out silences are almost deafening now. You can be in the same bed for an entire night and never once touch each other. Trouble is brewing in your relationship and the sad part is that both of you know it. Yet how can you save it? What is there that you possible can try before it’s really too late?
Even if the two of you guys are willing to make some changes to save your relationship that could lead to great improvements in the long run, but it takes persistence and team work.
1. Reflect on the things that attracted you together first.
Were you blown away by his quirky sense of humor? Did he drive you wild in his football jersey? What exactly attracted you to one another?
Find something from your mutual past and use it to reconnect with your partner. Sit down and watch football with him; he’s bound to enjoy your interest in sports.. Dig out his old jersey and ask him to wear it.
Even if you have to pretend to be these people for a minute or two, go back in time to when your love was new. The feelings are still there, they have just been buried under the stress of life. Let them back out.
2. Bring back the physically attraction.
When we are angry, hurt or sad, we tend to withdraw back into ourselves. We stop reaching out to our loved ones and that makes them hurt, angry and sad. Reach out and hug your husband.
Run your fingers along your husband’s arm. Allow your hips to gently brush against one another as you pass in the hallway. Just touch each other.
3. Try a change of scenery.
Staring at the same four walls when you are angry with someone can make the most wonderfully decorated room feel like a jail cell.
Go away for the weekend, even if it is only to a local hotel. The change may allow you to rest enough to discuss what is wrong, or maybe it will make your issues seem so insignificant that you’ll forget about it entirely.
4. Communicate about what’s bothering you 
You have pouted for over a week because he did not notice your new hair cut. Unless you hacked off more than six inches of hair, it might be because he did not register such a subtle change as quickly as your female friends did.
Then again, maybe he did notice and didn’t really care for it. Maybe the whole point of him not saying anything is because he was afraid he would hurt your feelings. And yet, here you are, with hurt feelings.
Tell him about it. He cannot read your mind, so tell him that you cut your hair and that he did not notice. Tell him that you are mad as hell about it. Of course, after he tells you what he really thought about your hair, you might be even madder about that.
5. Seek counselling
If all else fails, try a couple’s counselor. If you truly want to save your relationship, the impartial wisdom of an outside party might be just the saving grace you need.
You vent to your friends, and they all agree that you have married a slovenly pig. He vents to his friends and they all agree with him that he has married a soul crushing shrew.
A counselor will not take sides and may be able to steer you onto the right path of self healing, especially if your relationship can be fixed.
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